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How You Handle a Breakup Says a Lot About Who You Are as a Person

No woman has ever said: “I’m so happy that the guy I love broke up with me”. It’s really hard to get over it when your partner says he doesn’t love you anymore. One new research show that a way you explain your breakup to yourself has a direct impact on how you can move on.


The research, published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin is actually a series of 5 studies in which the researchers asked 891 people about their personalities and how they handle breakups and rejections. The participants were also asked to explain how they see themselves changed because a person broke up with them.

Scientist discovered that people who think their personality is set in stone had a really hard time moving on after their breakup. They also feel haunted by their previous breakups, even 5 years after the breakup happened.

What’s worse is that their feeling of rejection is causing them problems in their future relationships. Scientists also discovered that people who were rejected believe that it’s because they have a flow in their personality. That’s why these people end up constantly worrying that this flaw could mess up with their next relationship.

If you are going through a breakup and have a hard time, it’s extremely important to remind yourself that breakups happen. Just because it didn’t work out with someone, it doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. It means that maybe you’re not a good fit as a couple. Don’t let yourself down because maybe your right fit is waiting just around the corner.