Relationships form, relationships break. This is the rule of relationships. But, there are a few things that you need to keep in mind while breaking up. Doing so in a hurry, or not thinking it through is going to put you in a whole world of trouble. So, simply think about it before you take a step. You will see for yourself- whether you took a good decision or not.
Even after breaking up, there are certain things you need to keep in mind while thinking about the future. You cannot at all be hasty.
1. Don’t Decide Too Fast
We know, you are hurting. We know, that you simply want to let go. But, for once, just for once, hold on. Think about the consequences of your actions. Think for a very simple second, what would happen if 8 months down the line you see them with some other person. Would it hurt you? Would you be okay with it? Or would you cry silent tears and pretend everything is fine?
2. No Texts. No Public Scene!
Never ever break up over a text. For that is the worst you could ever do. Meet them, and explain why you are breaking up. Get and give closure. But also make sure, to never do it in a public setting. You don’t want to make a scene.
Never break up because you are angry. There has to be a lot of other reasons for you to break up. For if you are just angry and then break up, then you will eventually calm down. Can you deal with the regrets then? So, always break up with a cool frame of mind.
4. Being A Friend
Don’t try to be friends with your ex after breaking up. There are a lot of feelings left, and you might soon find yourself getting dragged into the mess back again.
5. Getting Back
Don’t even think about getting back the moment you break up. Yes, there are a lot of feelings, but you have to control yourself. Remember why you broke up, remember what had happened, and for once, think of all the bad things you had to go through. They will help you overcome this.
6. Social Media
No calls, no texts, no Instagram checkouts. Maintain a total internet blackout when it comes to them. Don’t check their posts, for that would only make you feel bad about your own life. Just let it be.
7. Dating Someone Next Immediately
Wait. Just wait. Don’t jump on the next passing boat. Explore your options, decide if this is what you want. For, right now, you would be seeking for some love from any place you can find. But, you need to know, while you shower the other person with love, maybe it isn’t love, but residual feelings. Just be calm and fall in love with yourself, if you can.
8. Take Care
Never stop taking care of yourself. Never let yourself go. Don’t drink too much or work on yourself. Go visit different places, get experienced, learn a new craft, work somewhere, read a book. Immerse yourself in things, and you would see your life turning better.
Well, why don’t you go ahead and give this a try? Be strong.